How to Not Be Your Own Cockblocker at Lifestyle Events — This post is about all of those times we have found ourselves sitting there at a lifestyle event looking across the way at a gorgeous couple that seems fun and intriguing but somehow different than us. We make assumptions about them (and about ourselves) that cause us to immediately decide…

Making couple time at the holidays is just as important as making family time. — Years ago, we started a holiday tradition that we like to call “Naughty Stocking Night.” The premise is pretty simple, really. We purposefully set aside one night each Christmas season to make a fire, have a cocktail or two, and gift each other a few items we’ve selected with sensuality…

How We Found What We Weren’t Looking For in the Swinger Lifestyle (in a Very Good Way) — Like all of our Medium posts and podcast episodes, today’s article is just us sharing our own experience and perception of the swinger lifestyle. We realize that others have different experiences and outlooks, and fully respect that. We wanted to write this piece for those starting out in the lifestyle…

The Unique Challenges and Opportunities of a Multi-Day Event — In the past, we’ve talked about how to flirt as swingers in the lifestyle and about how to transition from flirting to playtime. We have even talked about what to pack for a swinger vacation. …

Behavior Problem or Problem of Perception? — It seems to come up all the time, especially with those new to the swinger lifestyle—we hear people talking about feeling shut-out or excluded at lifestyle events. There seems to be a common perception that cliques run rampant in the swinger community. As Mrs. Jones points out at the start…

Some Thoughts from Mrs. Jones — In some respects getting older sucks. Things start to hurt when we bend a certain way. There are permanent ‘laugh lines’ on our faces. And it takes a lot more effort to stay in shape and feel fit than it used to. But not everything about getting older is bad. Being older is actually pretty liberating in many…

or, the quest for a 4-way connection — When people use the word “chemistry” to talk about connecting with another person, they often talk about it as if it were completely dichotomous—it’s either there instantly and fully or it’s completely absent and it’s never going to be there. Like a toggle or a light switch, it’s immediately on…

Do You Want to Be Swingers? Here’s How. — This article is for couples who have been talking (maybe only coyly ‘joking’) with each other about how sexy it might be to swing together, but haven’t quite managed to take the first steps toward actually doing so. If only ONE of you has been thinking about swinging and you…

New Relationship Energy doesn’t just affect single people! — People tend to think of new relationship energy (NRE) as the sort of enthralled, all-consuming excitement that typically accompanies a budding romance or new sexual relationship. You might call it a crush or think of it as infatuation. Psychology Today defines NRE as the period of time when people become…