Swinger Couple Resolutions for 2023
Some Suggestions for a Super Sexy New Year
Back in January of 2020, we published a blog post about swinger new year resolutions. And then…well, we all know how 2020 went. Time for a do over! We are firm believers in the power of exploring our sexuality together, as a couple. Talking about sex and setting sex-life resolutions with each other is one way to do that.
Four of the six resolutions we suggested for 2020 were do-able that year. They are still solid swinger resolutions now.
1 | Be Sexy Right Now
Don’t wait to lose those 5 or 20 or 40 lbs. Don’t wait until you’ve completed a 5K. It’s OK to set and work towards self-improvement goals, but this year, resolve to work on being sexy and sexual just as you are — you don’t have to wait until ______ to become a red-hot lover. Wear some things that look great on you and make you feel sexy. Flirt. Have solo sex. Initiate sex when you want it. Realize that wherever you are right at this moment, you are powerfully sexy to your partner and others. Let yourself feel it.
2 | Take Sexy Photos (or Get Them Taken by a Pro)
There’s something incredibly empowering about seeing yourself (and your partner) in sexy photographs. This year, why not experiment more with attire (or lack thereof), poses, and lighting? If resources are available, consider booking a boudoir session with a professional photographer. It can be a huge boost to your confidence to see yourself photographed by a pro. We have never heard anyone say they regret doing a sexy boudoir shoot. Or you can order yourself a selfie tripod with a remote like we did and practice making your own sexy portfolio!
3 | Start a Sexy Couple Journal
You may already sext or send naughty emails to each other but, trust us, there’s something really intimate and special about writing notes long-hand to your sweetheart — and it can be really special and sexy to read what your partner has written. You can recap an amazing experience you had together, write about a solo-play session you had with your favorite toy, express your naughty desires and kinky wishes, experiment with erotic poetry, or just write candid love notes. This is a great way to learn more about each other — no matter how long you’ve been together — and to grow as a couple.
4 | Make Your Sex Life a Relationship Priority
It’s easy to put sex on the back burner when the busy-ness of life seems ever present. Silly as this may sound at first, this year consider scheduling sex into your lives just as you do other priorities. “Date night” can be on the calendar for the family to see; you can know that “date night” means “sex night.” And don’t rule out being creative — you can build sex into your mornings and/or afternoon schedules, if that makes more sense for your lives. The idea is to treat making love at least as important as making sure the trash and recycling get to the curb every week.
The other two suggested resolutions didn’t pan out so well in 2020, for obvious reasons. For most people, these should now be possibilities for 2023!
5 | Go to a Lifestyle Event or Club
Make 2023 the year you decide to explore a lifestyle club or event together, even if you have no intentions of playing yet. Get dressed up, be sexy with each other, and check out what a club or event has to offer. You won’t know unless you try! Naturally, we encourage you to do your research before heading out the door. Know the policies, rules, and expectations of the venue or event well before you set foot inside. And remember, whatever you find on the inside of that club, the two of you are on an adventure together!
6 | Get Out of Town
Whether it’s just a couple of towns over, across the state, across the country, or on another continent — plan a sexy trip this year. It may or may not be lifestyle related. Maybe it’s just the two of you at a sexy location. Maybe it’s only for a weekend. Or maybe it’s a week at Desire with the Joneses (hint hint). Whatever you can afford, in terms of both time and money, we believe that sexy travel is a great way to add spice to your relationship!
And here are two newly added bonus resolution suggestions for you!
7 | Buy Some New Sex Toys
Our friends at Casual Toys know how to hook you up with just the right toys, lubes, and toy care products. The new year is a fantastic time to try something you’ve never tried before together or get something for your partner that you’d love them to have and enjoy. (You can use code WGTPC at check out for a 15% discount too!)
8 | Explore a Kink
Is there something the two of you have always wanted to try (or at least watch) but haven’t? The new year is a great time to talk with each other about kinks and at least do some digging together to learn about a kink that calls to you as a couple. Maybe it’s flogging. Maybe it’s Shibari rope bondage. Maybe it’s exhibitionism or voyeurism (or both). Maybe it’s role play or really dirty talk. Maybe it’s something else entirely. The start of a new year is a great time to explore something naughty together, even if all you do at first is explore online or buy some books and learn more about it.
We are Mr. & Mrs. Jones, swinger lifestyle podcasters. If you like what you read here and want to learn more about the swinger lifestyle and/or We Gotta Thing, you can find our podcast episodes and much more at WeGottaThing.com.
